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How to Cope With a Parent with Dementia

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Caring for a parent with dementia can be an emotionally challenging and demanding experience. Dementia affects millions of families in America, often leaving caregivers feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about their loved one’s health and well-being. 

Coping strategies to support a parent and care for yourself include:

  • Patience and empathy
  • Creating a safe and supportive home environment
  • Identifying triggers and address them
  • Establishing a daily routine with engaging activities
  • Prioritizing self-care
  • Seeking support and respite care services
  • Planning for the future legally and financially
  • Considering long-term care options

What Is Dementia?

Dementia is an umbrella term for several progressive neurological disorders that impact memory, thinking, behavior, and the ability to perform everyday tasks. Dementia isn’t a normal part of aging, but your risk for developing dementia can increase with age. Dementia symptoms can vary based on its stage:

  • Early-stage dementia: Mild memory lapses and difficulties with complex tasks.
  • Middle-stage dementia: Increased confusion, difficulty communicating, and changes in behavior.
  • Late-stage dementia: Significant memory loss and the need for complete assistance with daily activities.

How to Cope With a Parent with Dementia

Dementia symptoms can vary from person to person and may evolve with progression. It’s important to recognize that these symptoms are part of the condition and not a reflection of the person’s character. This understanding can help maintain a compassionate approach when interacting and coping with a parent with dementia.

Patience & Empathy

Effective communication with a parent who has dementia requires patience and empathy. Approach conversations calmly, speak slowly, and use simple language. Maintain eye contact and pay attention to non-verbal cues. Listen actively and validate their feelings, even if their words seem unclear or confused. Doing so can foster a sense of connection and understanding.

Create a Safe & Supportive Home Environment

Creating a safe and supportive home environment is essential. Remove hazards, such as loose rugs and electrical cords, and provide adequate lighting throughout the house. Install grab bars in the bathroom and consider using locks or alarms on doors and windows to prevent wandering. A familiar and organized space can help reduce anxiety and confusion.

Identify Triggers & Address Them

Managing behavioral changes requires patience and understanding. Restlessness, agitation, and mood swings are common in dementia. Identify triggers that may cause distress, such as time of day or environment and address them with flexibility. 

Establish a Daily Routine with Engaging Activities

Establishing a daily routine can also provide structure and predictability, reducing anxiety for both you and a parent. Involving them in meaningful activities, like sorting household items or enjoying a favorite hobby, can promote engagement and a sense of accomplishment.

Routine and structured activities can play an essential role in helping a parent with dementia. Regular daily schedules provide stability and help minimize confusion. Plan activities that match a parent’s interests and abilities, such as listening to music, gardening, or simple exercises. Encourage participation and celebrate small achievements, fostering a positive environment for you and a parent.

Prioritize Selfcare

Taking care of a parent can be physically and emotionally exhausting. Self-care is not a luxury but a necessity when caregiving. Caring for yourself enables you to be a more effective caregiver. Prioritize your well-being by:

  • Making time for yourself
  • Engage in activities you enjoy
  • Seek support from friends and family

Seek Support & Respite Care Services

Caregiver support groups and respite care services offer invaluable assistance. Joining a support group provides an opportunity to connect with others who understand your challenges and can offer advice and encouragement.

Respite care services allow caregivers to take breaks and recharge while knowing your parent receives professional care. Exploring these resources can greatly benefit your mental and emotional health.

Plan for the Future

Planning for the future is a vital aspect of managing dementia care. Legal and financial considerations addressed early on can help avoid potential complications.

Discuss options such as power of attorney, healthcare proxies, and living wills with a parent and other family members. Consulting a legal professional specializing in elder care can provide valuable insights and help finalize necessary documentation.

Consider Long-Term Care Options

A smiling parent with dementia sitting across from a staff member in memory care and holding pieces of a puzzle in their hands.

Making decisions about long-term care can seem daunting but necessary. Research memory care communities and assisted living communities that specialize in dementia care. Visit a community, speak with staff, and gather information to make informed choices. Having a plan in place can ease the transition if your parent’s care needs increase over time.

Support for a Loved One

Caring for a parent with cognitive impairment is a profound and rewarding journey and an opportunity to provide love, support, and companionship. With coping strategies such as empathy, patience, self-care, and seeking support, you can create a nurturing environment for your loved one and yourself.

Contact The Landing of Brighton if you’re interested in learning more about specialized memory care services and how they can benefit a loved one. 

Written by
Christina Dolan

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